This blog is a journal of our experiences as Funeral Directors of Nirvana.
Please contact Jenny Yap @ 012-3704884 or 019-3234883 or Email: firstname.lastname@example.org for immediate or pre-planning needs.
All contents presented and shared in this blog are the sole experiences of Ms Jenny Yap, District Service Director (Agent Code : 03618) and Mr Tai Koon Loon, Service Director (Agent Code : 03634) whom are attached to Agency 1089 registered and approved by NV Multi Asia Group
It was the day of funeral procession for the late Mr Ong who was scheduled to depart at 10am for cremation to be held at Nirvana Shah Alam.
At 7.30am, all our service staff have already arrived at the departure venue, despite some of us who only went off duty at almost 12.30am the night before. Everyone is punctual.
I saw all the Nirvana vehicles were neatly parked by the side of the driveway in front of the house, the Hearse, the Courtesy Escort Vehicle, the 40 Seater Air-conditioned Bus and the truck tasked to load the clearings of the Altar setting later on. Our service workers, the music band, the Emcee and the Service Consultants were all seen busy swinging into action, preparing for the ceremony to take place. This is a typical scene of a funeral departure.
Soon, the arrival of family's guests, friends and neighbours slowly streaming in to attend the sending off ceremony.
The Emcee made the first announcement to usher in all the deceased's children, their spouses and grand children to the side of the coffin. This is the moment, the last chance to see their father, grandfather for one last time. Our Service Consultant was seen guiding them thru this tradition. It was later followed by relatives and friends.
Closing and sealing of the casket then followed suit. This is a heart wrenching moment when tears just flowed uncontrollably. The loud chanting of Amitabhafrom the Monk was like combating the pounding sound from the hammering of nails into the four corners of the casket. At this juncture, the band's drum roll begins and it sends a heart breaking signal to everyone that the inevitable final farewell is indeed taking place now. With our all time Auld Lang Syne being played by the band, it almost never fails to hit hard into everyone's already bleeding heart.
The casket was then being wheeled out to the middle of the road just outside the car porch for a Buddhist final journey ritual to be performed by the monk. All family members were then given an incense each and followed the monk going round the casket to offer their prayers for the last time.
Upon completion of the prayers, our professional Emcee then took over and conducted the solemn ceremony. Her first reading was delivering the written eulogy on behalf of the children, with them on their knees before their beloved father. Her brittle voice spoke of all the unwillingness to let go but at the same time telling father that they will be fine and not to worry of them. They then performed three bows signifying their gratitude and love. They later stood at both sides of the casket divided by female to the right and male to the left facing the crowd.
The Emcee then called out for family members by seniority, from the grand uncles and aunts to the juniors distant relatives to friends and neighbours to offer their last respects (three bows). Nirvana representatives were the last to pay our respect. It was also our way to honour the trust and support given to us in carrying out a memorable and dignified funeral. Our comprehensive and professional Funeral Service is a proper and meaningful closure to a life chapter, and this could mean the world to the bereaved family.
The late Mr Ong's procession was led by all his son-in-laws and followed by all the children and grand children in a short walk around the neighborhood and the family members later boarded the bus heading towards Nirvana Shah Alam crematorium.
After the cremation ceremony, one of the late Mr Ong's children came to us and expressed his sincere appreciation on behalf of his family for a well organised funeral for his late father.
I must take this opportunity to thank all my comrades at Nirvana for a job well done! Like the saying goes, "The achievements of an Organisation are the results of the combined effort of each individual." You guys have nevertheless lifted up the name of Nirvana, the No.1 Bereavement Care Provider in Malaysia. Bravo!
10am - Lutheran Garden
10am - SFX Columbarium
10am - Cheras Cemetery - Mass followed by blessing
2pm - Shah Alam Cemetery & Nirvana Shah Alam Columbarium
2.45pm - Kampung Tunku Cemetery & Columbarium
Mr Liew senior came from Pahang to select an urn compartment for his wife and himself.
After visiting this beautiful columbarium ~ Ming Palace 3, he was so impressed by its architecture and its soft furnishings. Feeling calm and at peace, he concluded that he should also relocate his beloved mother to the same place, right next to his urn compartment. His late mum was laid to rest in a Chinese Cemetery near Shah Alam some 20 years ago.
Having gained some experience in this line of business over the years, I advised Mr Liew and his family to choose two compartments that are side by side with the late mother to be located on the left. My recommendation is in accordance with our generations old Chinese traditional practice that specifically require the older seniors' urn to be placed on the left hand compartment of or a level above their offsprings.
Mr Liew senior was very pleased with the urn compartments recommended and decided to purchase them and immediately proceeded with preparation for the relocation work.
Under the professional service of our relocation master, Mr Yap, an auspicious date and time was identified based on the birth dates of the family members who will be attending the relocation work on the actual day itself. This is necessary to avoid any bad chi clashes or affecting them the moment the remains is unearthed. In this case, that were Mr Liew junior and his wife, both came to attend and carry the ash urn of their late Grandma.
A special request was made earlier by Mr Liew senior for us to look out for his late mum's jade bangle which was one of grave goods buried along on her funeral day. It didn't take us very long to locate the item. It was a picture of mixed feeling when the bangle was retrieved and handed over to the grandson. Everything about Grandma suddenly gushed in with that little piece of sentimental keepsake. I could see it in his eyes.
People believed that such grave goods can chase away bad luck, said Mr Yap to Mr Liew junior.
While the work of retrieving the bones was progressing on, Mr Yap was heard asking his staff to keep searching for the last part of a missing lower limb. It was at that time, Mr Liew junior remembered that his grandma had one of her lower limbs amputated due to diabetes. Immediately everyone burst out laughing at how professional and experienced Mr Yap can be in his line of service...
With a family tree of more than 120 children, grandchildren and great grandchildren, this is by far my largest funeral service experience todate.
A fantastic lady she was, the late Mdm Teoh, passed away peacefully at the grand old age of 100.
Her life story was simply legendary; She brought up a total of 11 children of her own and at the same time adopted a few more along the way. As one of her daughters related to me what her late mother had said of the adoptions: "Since I am taking care of a few now, there makes no difference by adding another...". So, the family grew bigger as the years gone by.
She virtually brought up all the children single handedly as her late husband passed away when their youngest child was only nine years old. She was one steadfast lady who was far sighted and careful with her planning and spendings.
Today, all of her children and their family members will come back to their "kampung" very frequently to see their "Tai Po" or Ah Mah, like they call out to her during the prayers. They come back for the fun of running around the big compound which is full of fruit trees, a water well and lots of vegetables and greens. Spending time with their great grandma and enjoy their uncle's weekly delicious cooking.
I can see them playing and cycling around at the backyard in between the prayers' break. Children yelling and having fun even though it was at their great grandma's wake. Deep inside me, I know this is a very successful Great Grandma who is so blessed with such a large family whom are all living in perfect harmony.
> Select an ancestral tablet at Tang Villa Pedestal, Nirvana Shah Alam or Nirvana Semenyih
> The Sifu will select an auspicious day for the installation ceremony
> Prepare Prayer Offerings and Joss Materials as required by the Sifu
> Invite family members (more preferred) to participate in the ceremony
> Prepare Ang Pow for the Sifu
> Prayer will take approximately one hour